A Healthy Relationship with My AI Coding Agent: Use It, Abuse It, Outlive It
2026-04-24
I'm crazy in love with my AI coding agent. We spend every day together and we've built things I couldn't have built alone. But like any intense relationship, a quiet question eventually shows up: am I leaning too hard? Three stages of a healthy relationship with the coding agent — use it, abuse it, outlive it — and the surprising architecture you end up with when 94% of what was built doesn't, itself, need AI to run.